How to help your children

Children who experience Family Violence need extra support. This might be difficult to give during this tough time but as a parent you are responsible to look after your children in order to work against the negative effects of violence.

Here are some ways to help your children:

Let your children know that violence and abuse are NOT OK.
Talk to your children. Let them know that the violence and abuse is not their fault and that they are not to blame. Make sure that they understand that they are not responsible for another person's behaviour and that everyone is responsible for what they do.
Talk to your children about how they are feeling. Let them know that what they are feeling is OK and normal. Come up with things they can do to release their feelings in ways that are safe.
Let your children know that talking about Family Violence is OK and important. They might have been told that no one is to know about what is happing. But only by talking about Family Violence they can be safe and can release their feelings.
Encourage your children to speak to the school counsellor or call KidsHelpline on 1800 55 1800.
Often children feel embarrassed to open up to others and they think there must be something wrong with them. Explain to your children that Family Violence happens in other homes and let them know that they are not alone.
Talk to your children about their strength in order for them to discover self-worth and develop their self-esteem.

If you feel that it is all getting too much for you and that you cannot handle it by yourself ask for external support. It is OK to ask for help and does not mean you are not able to look after your children. Support might come from your extended family, friends, professionals, or community resources. Click here for contacts.

If you are the abuser

If you have been abusive within the past and you want to help your children, it is important to acknowledge the effect your abuse has had on your children. Positive parenting practices need to be implemented within your family. These practices must address the need for your children to be safe, loved, and secure at all times. For this to happen, your own behaviour must be changed first.


		Always remember: Children have the right to be safe and supported by adults.


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